Swingers' Information

Swinging has various connotations ranging from wife-swapping to Bob, Ted, Carol, & Alice to vast orgies at hedonistic parties.  In actuality, swingers are just like everyone.   Some are conservative, some are liberal, and some are who knows what.   Swingers come from all walks of life and backgrounds.  But they do share one thing in common--all are in committed, secure relationships in which their bonds are strong enough so that petty jealousies do not interfere with their experiencing life to its fullest.

Swinging is not wife-swapping.   Swinging is not illicit affairs.  Swinging is, however, consensual activities in which all parties are aware and approve of whatever is going on.

Swinging is not just sex, although sex usually plays a role.  Swinging is about relationships and friendships.   Non-swingers would not go to the movies with their idiot slob neighbors. So too swingers will not spend time with the same type people.  People spend time with their friends.  The difference is that swingers might also share a degree of intimacy with these friends.

For lack of a better way to classify sex between swingers, there are basically three configurations:

    1. SOFT SWINGING -- this is generally same-room sex with your partner in which you can watch others and be watched, but you are not expected to have physical interaction with the others in the room.  This is often the first swinging experience for many couples.

     2. CLOSED SWINGING --  this is where couples have sexual interaction with the opposite members of other couples but in separate rooms so that their normal  partners cannot see the actual activity taking place.

     3.OPEN SWINGING -- this is where two or more couples are in the same room and where the participants are free to engage in sexual activity as couples, in one-on-one pairings, or groups sex as the mood strikes.

Of course, these terms are very general, and there is as much variation within groups and geographic regions.

How does swinging affect a marriage?  No data has been scientifically gathered to date, but click below for an excerpt from NASCA International of an article by Edgar W. Butler, Ph.D.:

Click here for article

"I'm interested in swinging; how do I get started?"

If you and your partner are interested in swinging and want to try it out, then the two most common options are to place/respond to an ad or to attend a swing club.  You can start as slow as you want, and just because you start a dialogue with someone or you attend a club, you do not have to jump right in.  "No means no," especially with swinging.  So you can take your time, get ot meet people, and advance as you feel comfortable.

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